Sex, and the crap that follows.

If you are a woman and you want to sleep with a man, it follows that you will have issues. Not simply issues related to the particular incident, but issues from the other women in the sphere of the man you are/have slept with. This I have found is a more recent phenomenon. Ten years ago, it seems like you could go have casual sex if you were careful, and then go about your merry way, being friends or not with the guy, with no ill effects. Nowadays it seems like more and more the boys you end up sleeping with are happy to let you suffer and the other women in their lives suffer the consequences of something which should have been between just the two of you. They call it being open and honest. Really? Well... shit. I can't argue that, it is honest. It is also cruel and sometimes just rude. I don't want to deal with some crazy girl you are sleeping with who is in love with you and says she can handle a non committal sex only relationship, and then freaks out completely when you admit openly that you and I have slept together. What we do is between us, and what you two do is between you two. Seem shady? Well... Let me put this delicately... It seems like the women in your life would be much happier if you would instead of the "honesty" tried for more "Discretion". There is no need to flaunt the fact that you have several women you sleep with, you tell a girl once and then you let it go. You don't brag about it and you don't introduce the parties to each other, or expect them to happily skip down the lane together now do you? You do? Wow... then you have either, a lot of balls, no regard for any woman, or no brains. Now.... Some girls can handle the casual thing, but I'm here to tell you we're rare! There are many more ladies out there who will tell you that they are ok with it, and then flip the fuck out when you take them up on their cavalier, yet ultimately fake acceptance of another female in your realm. Discretion boys, is the better part of valor, it will keep the women in your life happy. There is a reason that people say ignorance is bliss, and I'm not telling you to lie to your ladies, but you don't have to rub it in either now do you? All of this is after a year of watching a couple of people who are very good at being honest, and the girls they deal with falling apart when their worlds are shattered. Be nice boys! and hey.. Girls? Stop being psycho bitches to the other women in your men's lives, they are in the exact same boat as you, so recognize, and move on. As a side note, the author is not involved in the above described drama, I am merely an audience member.

~Jules